Key Number Three: You Must Take 100% Responsibility for the Results You Get in Your Life

This key continues on from the previous, because it asks us to to hold ourselves accountable for all of what happens in our lives, regardless of whether or not we believe we chose it.

This key is a challenge for some people to embrace, because they point out that sometimes something happens that they were not expecting, could not have predicted and could never have prevented.

I tell them to act as if it’s true anyway. Because it’s only when we take this key on totally that we get to learn from everything that happens, and not just the stuff we believe we chose.

Even if something happens in a different city, if effects you, take 100% responsibility… not for the event… but for how you choose to respond.

Take 100% responsibility for the results you get

This key isn’t about blame, as in “you asked for it,” but about responsibility for choosing how you respond.

It is totally empowering to accept how you respond to the events in your life is entirely up to you. I remember when I first decided to play with this as if it was true. I was recovering from being ill and noticed that I was getting much more curious about how to get well. And not just well, but just will, but how to get totally radiant with outstanding health. I began to play the game of life at an entirely new level.

Think of the times you’ve heard someone say “It’s not my fault,” or “I didn’t ask for this.” Did you see how powerless they became when they said it? Why di that to ourselves when we could say, “This is what has happened, I don’t like it and I’m determined to find a way to turn it around.”

People say “Why me?”

How about instead, “It’s me because I have the resources I need to deal with it.”

You have all the resources you need to create your ideal life

You have all the resources you need to create your ideal life. No one else is responsible for your transformation. No else is responsible for your results or your lack of results. You are responsible for whether you choose to feel happy, sad, content, overwhelmed, angry or empowered. Your parents and what they “did” to you when you were younger are in no way preventing you from Level 1 living. Neither is the bully, the person who attacked you, who ripped you off or beat you. The person who caused injustice in your life or the illness that took away some choice… none of these things are preventing you living at Level 1, If you choose to accept 100% responsibility for the results that you are getting, right now.

Accepting this is true Level 1 living.

The first thing you must believe is you are to play your life at this level is that you must create the transformation. Not someone else, not when you feel like it,  not when the going gets easier, or when others have done or said something, but right now.

I must create the transformation

The second thing to believe for total Level 1 living is that you can create transformation. You must believe that you have the resources you need to create the change you must have. You have to be the source of your own transformation. It’s no good waiting for your partner to change to be happy, or hoping the market will get stronger to save your business, or wishing someone else comes along to fix things for you.

You must create the transformation, right now, on your terms

Think of something you believe you do well. What do you believe is true about your abilities? How do you take responsibility for the results that you get? Answer this question in as much detail as you can.

Think of something you believe you are definitely not good at. What do you believe is true about your abilities? How do you not take responsibility for the results that you get? Answer this question in as much detail as you can.

What have you notice about the two experiences? What specifically is different about two experiences?

Think of something that you want to be good at or want to master. If you are 100% responsible for the results you get, what needs to change, right now? What do you need to commit to? Who do you need to stop holding responsible for the result you want?

For the next seven days, act as if you are 100% responsible for every result you get. Include in this the response you get from other and things that in the past you might have not chosen to take responsibility for.

Give yourself the gift of living at Level 1 as often as you can, and if you slip, be aware of it and then step up once more.

Key Number Two: You Must Choose What You Focus On

This second key flows from the first. It says that what we choose to search for we will find. What you focus on is what you will get. Think of a time you bought a car. Can you recall that before you decided to get the car you didn’t notice that particular type of car in your travels? What changed once you made the decision? How many of that type of car did you begin to notice?

Close your eyes once you’ve read these instructions. Think of all things in the room that are green. Think only of the green objects. Everything that is green. How many green objects are you able to count with your eyes closed?

Once you have completed that exercise, ask yourself, “How many objects are in the room that are red?”

Because you were focused on the objects that were green, you would have sorted for the green objects, You would have deleted all other colors. You would have been able to recall many more objects that were green than were red.

This simple exercise demonstrates how your mind operates. It sorts for what you tell it to focus on.

Focus on the hardships in life, and you will experience more hardships. Focus on life’s injustices and you will experience life’s injustices. Focus on ill health and you will experience ill health. Focus on  your weaknesses and you will experience disappointing results.

Focus on love and kindness, and you will experience love and kindness. Focus on the keys to health and vitally and you will experience the same. Focus on your strengths and you will experience even more success.

Because what we focus on is what we get. And what we focus on is what we get to the exclusion of everything else.

To demonstrate this, think about the times you’ve been on the world wide web and searched for something. If you type in “Poverty” you will find millions of hits for this one subject. Type in “Wealth” and you will find millions of hits for this.

What you search for is what you will find. One way to look at this is to realise that we exist within pure potential. ALL possibilities exist in every moment. The possibility you experience is based on what you search for.

If you focus on what you fear, you will only see what you fear. Focusing on your strengths is always to your benefit. What many people do is focus on what will be difficult or how they might fail, so they don’t even attempt the attempt the things they are sure they can do.

The secret to Level 1 living is to focus on where you want to go.

When I run trainings on Your Success I explain it like this. Imagine that your world exists within a warehouse where everything is contained. Health, wealth, poverty, sickness, happiness, sadness, loneliness, friendship, success, love and joy. You have a flashlight and you go searching in this warehouse. What you will find is determined by where you point your flashlight.Point it in one corner and you find health. Point it somewhere else and you find joy.

Point it somewhere else and find despair.

What happens if you turn the floodlight on? You suddenly see all possibilities. You exist with all of these possibilities at all times.

When I first learnt this I became immediately aware of how I had been choosing to focus on what my world lacked. And my results reflected my focus because it required a level of personal responsibility that I’d never before considered. But I knew that if I didn’t I was going to keep getting the results I was getting. And that was intolerable for me.

One of thing that is worth noting about this key is that when you shift your focus you may not see the change in your direction immediately. you may continue to see some of the old results you no longer want. Just as in life, there can be a lag time between when you shift your focus and when your life catches up.

Be aware of this and persist. Focus right now on what you do want to experience in life. Focus right now on your strengths and capabilities. The sooner you do this, the sooner you’ll get your desired results.

Ask Yourself these questions: .

• Does choosing to accept this key as true enhance my experience of life?
• Does choosing to accept this key mean I will choose a more empowering focus in some or all areas of my life?
• Does choosing to accept this key give me a powerful tool for transforming my life?

If you answered yes, then I acknowledge you, because this one key has the power to totally transform your life.

This one key has the power to allow you to see the magnificence in everyone.

This one key has the power to enable you to focus on your strength, thus allowing you to improve your results in whatever you do.

This one key has the power to release you from anger, because you will see the lesson in the situation, rather than the hurt.

This one key has the power to allow you to forgive whoever you believe has harmed you, because you’ll know that by focusing on love, rather than resentment, will allow you to feel peace.

This one key has the power to see that you are truly a phenomenal human being, capable of the most amazing feats.

People who live at Level 3 focus on what they can’t control and influence, and thus feel constantly overwhelmed and out of control. People at Level 1 focus on what they can control and influence, and thus feel empowered and confident.

Think of something you believe you do well. What is it you tell yourself about your abilities? What do you see in your mind’s eye? What do you tell yourself? How do you feel when you see yourself doing this task? Answer this question in as much detail as you can.

What have you noticed about the two experiences? What specifically is different about the two experience?

Think of something that you want to be good at or want to master. If your focus determines your reality, what would your focus need to be? What would you  need to see yourself doing? In your mind, create a successful attempt at this thing and see yourself doing it perfectly. Hear the seconds of successful attempt at how you would feel. Tell yourself what you would tell yourself as you did this thing with total mastery. Breathe as you would breathe. Look in the direction you would look. Be as specific as possible.

What have you notice about your physiology as you created for yourself this successful attempt? What have you noticed about how you feel?

For the next seven days, act as if what you focus on is what you get. Decide to search for evidence of your own strength and the strengths of others. Choose to see the positive in each moment. Focus on what you can do and what you can control and influence, rather than on what you can’t. Shine your flashlight on what you appreciate, what you can do, what you enjoy and what you may learn from every moment.

Give yourself the gift of living at Level 1 as often as you can, and if you slip, be aware of it and then step up once more.