Getting Organised

To make the change you want in life you need to make the time and create the space for them. Cluttering your life with the noise and busy-ness of your life can get in the way of you achieving what you want. Bill Gate, who runs many companies, has exactly the same number of minutes in the day as a surfer. We all have the same amount of time in our day, the only difference is how we choose to use it.

Creating Space:

Allocate time for yourself and your goals and dreams. Don’t hope you’ll find the time one day. That’s the old pattern and it will deliver the old results. Diarise when you will take action toward your goals. .

What I have diarised:

Work out how you spend your time during the average day. This will reveal to you where you have been wasting time. Most people who do this find another half an hour to two hours per day.

Where I found I was wasting time, and commit to eliminate:

Add up how much time you spend on yourself, your goals, your personal and physical development.

The amount of time spend on myself, my goals, and my personal and physical development:

The amount of time I now commit to spend on myself, and my personal and physical development:

Develop and stick to a filing system that works. People who rely on their memory and scraps of paper to run their finances and their lives are limited by how much they can remember. 

What I have done to improve the management of my life:
If  “no time “ is a constant excuse or story you tell yourself to prevent you doing what needs to be  done to achieve your goals, replace it with a belief or story that will work.

The old story about time:

My new, story about my time and how I can choose to use it:

Declutter your house of anything you haven’t used for three years. This includes clothes, cooking implements, bedding, furniture and the rest of the useless stuff we gather throughout our lives. 

What I have decluttered:

What this action has freed up in my home, my business, my cupboards, and in my mind:

Take a few moments to answer the questions below.

What activities took up the largest proportion of your time last year?

What was the most valuable use of your time last year?

What were your five biggest time wasters last year?

Approximately how much time did you spend watching TV each Day?

Approximately how much time did you spend focusing on your dreams and goals each day?

Everyone on the plane has the same number of hours in the day.

People who say “I’m too busy” are investing in the “busy-ness” of their lives, instead of investing in what truly matters to them

Creating Your New Empowering Values

You have in place a picture of your ideal life, your top five one year goals, empowering questions for driving you towards your destiny. Now it’s time to put in place the values you need to support you as you go about creating your ideal like.

As we said earlier, values are the drivers… they are instrumental in determining the quality of our life and whether or not we are happy and fulfilled.

Look at your old values and ask yourself, which of these values will support, nurture and serve me as I go about creating my ideal life? Which values wouldn’t? For example, if you have designed more fun in your life, and your values are about obligation, duty and commitment, there is a conflict. It would be difficult to experience fun. If you want to experience more achievement in your life and your values are around fun and freedom and your moving away values are rejection and failure, achievement is going to elude you.

It’s time to create values that are going to conspire for your success. It’s time to think about the values that you want driving you as you build your extraordinary life.

Extraordinary of Value

Honor

Courage

Tolerance

Passion

Persistence

Faith

Outrageousness

Fun

Happiness

Love

Commitment

Self-Trust

Compassion

Tenacity

Openness

Achievement

Adventure

What kind of person do you ultimately need to become in your lifetime?

What do you want to stand for? What do you want to believe in?

What do you want your life to really be about?

What do your values need to be to achieve the extraordinary life you are designing for yourself?

What order do these values need to be in order to achieve your extraordinary life?

What rules do these values need to have in order to achieve your extraordinary life?

Melissa’s Number One Value”

Health and vitality

My rule for this value to be met:

I experience health and vitality anytime I walk, or

I do class at Lifetime fitness, or

Eat health, or

Drink Water, or

Go to the beach.

What are you noticing? How easy do you think it is for me to achieve meeting my top need for health and vitality each and every day? The key to this is to make your rules about your values as easy as possible to achieve.

Now it’s your turn to construct the values for your life that will be a guiding compass, regardless of what is happening or you think is happening.

What kind of person do you ultimately need to become in your lifetime?

What do you want to stand for? What do you want to believe in?

What do your values need to be to achieve the extraordinary like you are designing for yourself?

What order do these values need to be in order to achieve your extraordinary life?

What rules do these values need to have in order to achieve your extraordinary life?

When constructing these rules, make sure they are as easy to achieve as possible… conspire for you own success.

For example:

Love

I experience love anytime I see someone being kind, OR

Feel love, OR

Show my love to someone, OR

Remember a loving moment, OR

Take care of myself, OR

Tell someone I love them or care for them

Notice in this example how easy it is to feel the value of love? Make sure you give yourself the same gift of successfully being about to feel the emotional states you want to all the time. Make sure that your rules can be met by you alone. If you are reliant upon someone else to do or say something you are surrendering your opportunity to feel that emotional state to someone else.

Number One Value:

Rules to experience this value:

I experience ____________________ anytime I _____________________________, OR

___________________________________________, OR

___________________________________________, OR

___________________________________________, OR

___________________________________________, OR

___________________________________________.

Now let's create your moving away values that you know, if you were to experience them, you were disconnecting from your authentic self. For example, my number one moving away value is self-pity. I know if I choose to do self-pity. I know if I choose to do self-pity what I am really doing is being self-involved and selfish, and I am ignoring the truth that I have all I need within me now. I am also ignoring the truth that I am 100% responsible for how I experience my reality. 

My other moving away values included overwhelm and stress, because I know that when I choose those emotional states what I am really doing is hoping it will all just go away and I won't  have to deal. The truth? I have the resources I need to turn it around, and there is always a practical or spiritual solution to everything. 

When you originally did this exercise, you may have chosen rejection or failure as a moving away value... We trust that you are beginning to appreciate that rejection and failure are an inevitable part of any experience. Without the risk of experiencing our three greatest fears, we can't learn appreciation or love or what we are truly capable of.

Choose for yourself right now moving away values that will give you the most leverage for creating the momentum you are seeking for yourself. Once you've done that, create some rules that reflect your new leverage. 

For example:

Melissa's moving away value: Self-pity

Rule for experiencing self-pity

Anytime I forget my true potential: OR

Anytime I forget I have the resources within me now: OR

Anytime I choose to be self-involved and selfish: OR

Anytime I want it to be all about me, like a martyr....

Notice how strong my language is around this moving away value. What chance do you think I have of wanting to do this emotion very often? Hardly ever. In fact, whenever I do this emotion, I feel an amazing amount of discomfort and pain, Because I know I am choosing to disconnect from my authentic self. 

MOVING AWAY VALUE NUMBER ONE

_______________________________

Rules for experiencing my number one moving away value:

I experience _____________________________ anytime I

________________________________________________________, OR

________________________________________________________, OR

________________________________________________________, OR

________________________________________________________, OR

________________________________________________________.

YOUR COMMITMENT TO LIVING YOUR VALUES EACH AND EVERY DAY WILL EQUAL THE AMOUNT OF FULFILLMENT YOU EXPERIENCE.