The key distinction here is to appreciate that emotion are not random feeling that happen by chance... emotions are things we do.
We do happiness
We do sadness
We do depression
We do anger
There are over 3,000 emotion and we choose which ones we will do depending on which needs we want to meet and our habitual choice.
We must alway remember that there is enormous power in emotion... the foundation of happiness, joy, love, passion, and fulfillment comes from our willingness to choose our emotions with volition.
Experiencing any emotion is our first choice.
Our second choice is to decide to revisit that emotion... if it is resourceful and sustainable.
It's about being willing to develop the emotional muscles that will assist us in creating our ideal life.
Examples of empowering emotions include happiness, contentment, certainty, passion, joy, love, creativity, stimulated, curious, excited, bubbling, energised, impassioned, serene, fascinated, fun-loving, vibrant, exuberant, charged, determined, comfortable, resourceful, gratefulness, compassion, forgiveness...
Examples of disempowering emotions include frustrated, angry, afraid, confused, impatient, irritated, lonely, nervous, scared, terrified, embarrassed. harried, overwhelmed, stressed exhausted, jealous, lost disgusted, stupid, terrible, down, depressed, petrified, indifferent, bored, judgement, devastated, miserable...
"Take charge of your emotions for they will take hold and mould your life."
Take a moment to answer these question:
- What empowering/resourceful emotions do you most often feel?
- How do you notice you hold your body when you do these emotion?
- What do you focus on when you do these emotion?
- If you like and want to continue to experience certain of these emotion, what could you do with your body, with your thoughts, with your focus to keep doing them?
- What disempowering/unresourceful emotions do you most often feel?
- How do you notice you hold your body when you do these emotion?
- What do you focus on when you do these emotions?
- If you dislike and no longer want to continue to experience certain of these emotions, what could yo do with your body, with your thoughts, with your focus to change doing them to other more resourceful emotions?
- What have you learned from doing this exercise?
- What emotional states will you commit to experiencing on a consistent basis from now on>
- How is doing this commitment going to benefit you, your life, and those arounf you?
