There are three levels at which we can be living our lives. Whichever level we decide to live determines the quality of our life. Whichever level we live our life is a choice.
Look at each of these levels and determine which level you are choosing to live. You may be living at different levels depending upon the area of your life you think about. For example, you may be living at Level 1 in health and level 3 in relationships.
Each of these levels is an archetype, and doesn;t portray everyone all of the time. We might spend some time at level 3 and some time at level 1, depending on where we are in our lives and what we are experiencing. We might even experience all three levels at the one time.
LEVEL 3 THINKING
Level 3 living is where we are invested in the stories of why we can’t, and these stories prevent us experiencing the results that we desire. A story is anything we tell ourselves to justify not creating transformation. For example, someone may say “I can’t be a successful saleperson because my parents never taught me how to communicate.” Or “I don’t success in relationships because my work is too important.’ Or “may bad back stops me working.” Or “If you’d been abused like I was you wouldn’t be happy either.” Or “Life is hard and that’s why I don’t success.”
Anything that you tell yourself as a reason for not being able to act or to be happy is your story. It is what you drag around with you as you escape clause. I don’t say this to be harsh, because I have done this myself and I still do. Learning this stuff isn’t a one-time deal. You don’t learn it and then everything is perfect in your life. We each need to hold ourselves accountable to being aware of when we buy into these stories. The story I dragged around for years was “I can’t be happy because I have too may issues from my past to deal with.
The amount of time you spend investing in your stories is the amount of time you aren’t investing in your life. The more time you spend at this level is less time you have to build your build your ideal life, because I have too many issues from my past to deal with.
People who live mostly at this level tend to wonder why they are stuck and can’t get on with their lives. They hope things will get better. They don’t believe in much because life has given them so little to believe in.
Level 3 living means taking responsibility when it is convenient and surrendering responsibility when the going gets tough.
Level 3 Living includes why we can’t be our ideal weight, have an extraordinary relationship, what we tell ourselves people have done “to us”, ill health, what we tell ourselves prevents us getting ahead i.e. not old enough, too old, not enough training, not enough education, not good enough parents, no money.In fac, that last story… not enough money… is one of the most sommon stories I hear.
Level 2 Thinking
If you are living at level 2 you are aware that there are some areas in your life that need changing but you’re not sure how to go about creating the change. You would experience confusion and self-doubt. Level 2 people create change for themselves if they are presented with how to turn things around. Level 2 people often think life could be better, but rather than just hoping it improves, like level 3 people, they seek out the answer, as long as they don’t have to change too much themselves.
Level 2 people might be into alternative remedies and alternative solutions, because the mainstream answers have proven disappointing. They might believe in astrology & psychics.
Whilst Level 2 people have stories they tell themselves about why their life isn’t exactly as they want it, they still experience levels of happiness and fulfillment. Their stories haven’t become all they have, so their level of skepticism and disappointment in the world isn’t as ingrained as it might be for someone at level 3.
Someone at level 2 might take responsibility for some areas of their lives, especially the areas that they are good at or which they feel most comfortable. When they take responsibility they like how it feels and want to do it more.
Level 1 Thinking
Level 1 people know that it is entirely up to them what happens in their life. They hold themselves 100% responsible for the results they get, regardless of what the results might be, because they know that anything less is giving away their opportunity to affect change.
Someone living at Level 1 would never indulge in blame or justification, because they know that doing that simply stops them learning and growing from a situation. They know that through growing and learning they become even happier. They aren’t interested in who to blame, but rather how to turn the situation around.
Level 1 people feel gratitude for what they have in their lives, including their opportunities to learn and grow. They see problems as gifts for them to take their lives to the next level.
Someone at level 1 doesn’t bemoan the past, but has forgiven whoever they perceive harmed them, knowing that the act of forgiveness is a gift for themselves.
Level 1 living is an extraordinary level of self-responsibility. It isn’t about blame, but choice.
Level 1 living is about taking yourself lightly, and looking for the good in every situation.
Level 1 living embrace the five keys we are about to look at all of the time, not just when it is convenient.
Your aim is to live at level 1 as often as you possibility can. Your aim is live at level 1 not just when the going is good… anyone can do that… but especially when the going is tough. Extraordinary people live at level 1 regardless of what is going on in their lives, because they know that it isn’t the circumstances of their lives that shape them, but what they think and choose as a result of those circumstances.
- What level have you been living your life unit now?
- What has living at that level cost you?
Oprah Winfrey grew up in the South of North America and says that the only evidence she has of anything except poverty was the books she read. She was sexually abused and has a miscarriage in her teens. You could argue that Oprah had some pretty good “stories” she could have dragged around as reasons for not living a full life. Maybe she still some stories we’re not aware of. But no one could say this woman has become anything except for an extraordinary example of what is possible,
The quality of your life is a direct reflection of how
many stories you have chosen to cease indulging in.
Stories are anything we tell ourselves about, why we can’t be, do or have whatever we desire. For example, if you are shy and you use that as reason for not go for a promotion, that is your story. They question is, is your story for you or against you?
The only thing preventing us from be who want to be, doing what we want to do, and having what we want to have is the stories we tell ourselves about why we can’t
What stories have you indulged in until now Give details about what you tell yourself and others about why you can’t be, do, or have whatever you want.
You May want to revisit previous exercises over the next few days and add to the stories as you notice yourself using them. For example, it took me a while to realise that one of my stories was that people are in this world for themselves so no one will help me. When I realised that is what I’d trunked began aligning themselves with me.
What have these stories prevented you from being, doing, or having?
Why would you let go of these stories right now? Give yourself as many compelling reasons as you can as to why you would dump these excuses. Write down what you would see, hear, feel and tell yourself if you dumped these stories once and for all.
If today was the first day of your life, and you could create any story you wanted for yourself about what you are capable of, what would you say? For example, once I had identified the story I had been carrying around about other people, I change it to "people align with others when they believe in them and when they can also achieve their goals. It's about creating a win/win outcome for us all."
Another story I dumped was that it's hard to succeed because I didn't have the ideal upbringing. My new story became "My life is entirely up to me."
Write new stories that will mean you are committing to living your life at ! regardless of the circumstances of your life. Make the commitment to live at Level 1 even when the going gets tough, knowing that as human beings is not our ability to shirk challenges but to handle them, thus settling an example to ourselves and to those around us.
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