I used to say yes to whatever was asked of me. believing that way I would be liked. What I was really doing was managing my fear of not being loved or not belonging. What would happen was I would run around for someone else, then feel resentful for being “used” if they didn’t express enough gratitude. Maybe you have a pattern like that, and you’re noticing that it’s tiring making everyone else happy. Especially if it means you aren’t.
The solution is to learn to say no. It won’t offend the other person, unless they expect you to comply to their every request, in which care why is that? If you have trouble saying “no” , then say “I will have to get back to you,” This buys you the time to think about whether this is something you really want to spend time on, and also means you won’t have to worry about hurting anyone’s feelings.
Once you've said you’ll get back to them, you can then think of another solution that doesn’t involve you. And maybe you’ll choose to experience courage by saying you can’t do the task.
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