- Love. This is the heart of happiness. The best is loving someone else, and is the polar opposite of fear. It is the antidote the fear
- Optimism. This provides power over painful events. It is more than just thinking positively. It is realising that even the most painful events hold opportunities for lessons. Even more, the more it hurts, the greater the lessons.
- Courage. The only way to rise above fear is to tap into courage. Fear is hardwired into our neural pathways, and so is courage. It is nature’s way of providing balance and is the quality that allows us to thrive.
- A Sense of Freedom. When we choose, we define who we are. Everyone has the freedom to choose, and unhappy people don’t know this or they don’t believe it. The truth is, freedom is available to anyone who has the courage to exercise it.
- Proactivity. Happy people participate in their own destiny and their own happiness. They don’t wish, wait or hope that it comes along. They don’t accept the role of the passive victim, but choose to be the active hero in their own life.
- Security. Happy people know that nothing truly last forever. Not money, approval, or even life. Security isn’t measured in a bank account or a calendar, but through feeling secure about who they are and what they stand for. Security for them is an inside job.
- Health. Health and happiness are interdependent. The most important part of your health is your mood chemistry. You could be happy and not know it if you have an imbalance in the levels of serotonin and dopamine.
- Spirituality. happy people are willing to go beyond the limits or boundaries of their own lives. Their fear isn’t death, it’s not living a full life.
- Altruism. Think about the unhappy people you know and notice how self involved they tend to be. Happy people focus on others, not just themselves. They know that this focus feels great, and gives them purpose.
- Perspective. Unhappy people tend to have a black and white view of life. It either is or it isn’t, there’s not grey, so it’s easy for them to be disappointment. Happy people see the grey, aren’t scared of it, and they keep sight of life’s bigger picture when there are problems.
- Humor. When we laugh or choose to take ourselves lightly we feel lighter, and our troubles seem further away and less serious. Humor and lightness connects us to our neocortex, and lifts suffering from the heart to a place of empowerment, the only place where there is the power to heal it.
- Purpose. Happy people know why they are here and are doing what they know they are meant to do.
- Appreciation. This one quality gets its own banner...We cannot experience fear and appreciation at the same time. Happy people spend time appreciating and being grateful for what is in their lives, who is in their lives and what they are experiencing.
List twenty things that you are happy about and why they make you happy
What’s at least ten things that would make you even more happy if you were to focus on them? i.e I will feel even more happiness when I choose to spend more time walking in the morning.
Remember:
Make sure you word it as it is above each time. I would choose to feel even more happy…
Be sure to choose things, feelings, activities that only you can do or feel. Don’t leave your happiness up to someone else changing.
You can include what you are no longer going to tolerate, for example, I will feel even more happiness when I choose to clean out my cupboards
I will feel even more happiness when I choose to...
What have you allowed until now to prevent you feeling happiness? Use the twelve keys to happiness to help you with this, For example, have you believe that your health plays no part in your happiness, or ignored the power of appreciation?
Identify and list the areas that you have neglected until now. (i.e. Proactivity, health, appreciation)
What has neglecting these attributes cost you in the past?
If you were to continue to ignore these attributes, what would be the cost on you and your loved ones in the future? What will be the cost on your dreams? How will you feel? What would your life look like if you continued to neglect these attributes?
What do you have to gain by taking on these attributes? How will your life change? How will your attributes to life change if you choose to take on these attributes right now?
What would prevent you taking on all twelve of these attributes? Is it something that is outside of your control and influence? For example, I can’t feel appreciation as long as there are terrorists in the world.
If you externalise the reasons why you can’t, you’re giving up your personal power. What you’re saying is something that is beyond my influence will dictate my life. To change this, ask yourself, “What is within my control and influence now?” The answer is always how we manage our own emotional state. Everything else is always changing.
The only thing that would prevent me doing this right now is…
The only way to remove an obstacle is to decide it isn't going to be one. What can you decide right now about this excuse, that will allow you to remove it as an obstacle?
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.
If you were to commit to living a Level 1 life from this moment on, which of the key to happiness would you actively seek to experience in your life?
How will you know you are doing this? What will you notice? What will you do? What will be different?
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